It was supposed to be a simple three‑person lease. Instead, one uninvited “weekend regular” has turned a quiet apartment into a full‑blown boundary war — complete with sex noise, Super Bowl chaos, and a looming landlord threat.

User Pitiful-Exchange-792 (23F) says she and her roommate “Becky” (23F) signed a lease with OP’s boyfriend a few months ago. Before moving in, the trio agreed on basic rules: respect the shared space and keep intimacy volume down.

Then came Becky’s boyfriend.

He’s not on the lease, doesn’t live there, but according to OP, he’s there every weekend, blowing past both agreements. While OP and her boyfriend stay quiet, she says she’s had to repeatedly remind Becky about the noise. And this past weekend, things escalated.

While OP was sick, Becky’s boyfriend allegedly:

  • Decided he was hosting a Super Bowl party in their living room
  • Made a mess
  • Then didn’t clean up

Now OP is wondering if she’d be out of line to demand he start paying rent if he’s going to act like a tenant without the responsibilities.

The comment section did not hold back.

Top replies say the problem isn’t money — it’s entitlement. One user warned that if he pays, he’ll “feel entitled” to be even louder and messier, now armed with a “legal document to hide behind.” Another urged OP to ban him outright if he can’t respect the space: “You are on the lease, he is not. You live there, he does not.”

But OP reveals a twist: Becky’s boyfriend is friends with her own boyfriend, and she’s afraid of being “ganged up on.” She says it already happened once when she tried to speak up, and her boyfriend “would rather [she] not be confrontational,” even though she’s the one uncomfortable in her own home.

With commenters now floating the nuclear option — involving the landlord and using guest limits in the lease to potentially get him banned — this isn’t just about dishes and decibels anymore.

One thing is clear: the rent isn’t the only thing being split in this apartment — loyalties, boundaries, and patience are all on the line, and this weekend boyfriend might be the bill nobody wants to keep paying.