It was supposed to be the ultimate “girls party.” Instead, it became a live‑action red flag parade.

An 18‑year‑old poster says she and her two friends, Amy and Ally (all 19F), spent six hours getting Amy’s apartment and outfits perfect for a joint birthday party. Most of the guest list was women; only five invited guys were supposed to show up, including the poster’s boyfriend of nearly two years (19M) and Amy’s boyfriend, Liam.

Then the chaos walked in.

Her boyfriend arrived late, 24‑pack of beer in hand, and didn’t even say hi. Moments later, four uninvited men walked through the door — one of them the poster’s ex, whom she’s been no‑contact with for three years. No “happy birthday,” no acknowledgment of the hosts. According to her, it didn’t even seem like they knew it was a birthday party.

Liam was the one who invited them. Her boyfriend? “Zero issue” with the ex being there and actually happy to see him. Soon, nine guys were outside, taking turns joyriding a motorcycle up and down the street while the birthday girls stared at each other in disbelief.

Inside, the vibe was “girls’ night.” Outside, it was a drunken “boys hang.” Commenters summed it up bluntly: “Your bfs ignored you, invited random men to a house that wasn’t his, drove drunk, then blew up at you… All you girls need to break up with them.”

As the night spiraled, Amy was in the bathroom puking, Liam was too drunk to care, and the two boyfriends — already about ten beers in — allegedly drove off to get more alcohol. Later, the poster’s boyfriend decided he was “a‑okay” to drive 45 minutes home blackout‑level drunk.

When she finally confronted him back at his place, he exploded. He accused her of being lazy, needing to work more, and nagging him about laundry — despite the fact that she works 30 hours a week and says he hasn’t had a job their entire relationship. She left in an Uber.

The next day, he was on his video game, tossed out a casual “sorry about last night baby,” and moved on. No real conversation. No accountability.

Now, with a history she describes as including a porn addiction, growing alcoholism, and zero employment, she’s wondering if this birthday disaster is the “cherry on top” and her cue to leave.

Reddit’s verdict? The party might be over, but this breakup saga looks like it’s just getting started.