It was supposed to be a love story about “dating for marriage.” Instead, it’s turned into a slow-motion emotional car crash that thousands are rubbernecking in real time.
A 29-year-old woman says she’s spent seven years with her boyfriend, Javi, under one shared premise: this was headed for marriage. They talked about it from the start. Then came a miscarriage, another pregnancy, and finally a baby girl in 2023. Marriage talk faded into the background as she was slammed with a brutal medical diagnosis, nine ER trips, two hospital stays, and eventually having a kidney removed.
Through all of it, she says she thought she had a “pretty great relationship” with some “sore spots.” Reddit is not buying it.
The mask allegedly slipped during a board game. While playing LIFE with his 9- and 13-year-old siblings, the kids giggled and asked, “Javi, are you going to marry Ashley?” She looked at him, ready for a cute moment. Instead, he looked her up and down and said one flat word: “No.” Then walked away.
His siblings immediately called it “fucked up.” He later brushed it off as “just a joke” and refused to apologize.
Days later, in front of her visiting friend, she says he snapped again when she asked about his stepmom’s behavior: “I don’t know Ashley, you seem so fucking concerned why don’t you fucking ask her.” She ended the relationship on the spot but couldn’t afford to move, so they stayed living together.
Months later, they tried again. He promised marriage within 1–2 years. She accepted, clinging to the timeline. Fast forward 1.5 years: when she asks where they are in the plan, he shrugs that he “doesn’t really care about it,” accuses her of wanting “a title,” and now literally changes the subject when she brings it up.
Meanwhile, she’s pointing out that if something goes wrong medically, her mom — not her partner of seven years and father of her child — is her power of attorney. She’s even offered a stripped-down compromise: no wedding, no legal marriage, just POA documents and simple rings. He’s “uninterested in all of it.”
Commenters are savage. The top response scoffs at her calling this a “great relationship” and tells her she needs “a clean break.” Others describe her as being fed emotional “breadcrumbs” and call his behavior cowardly, resentful, and checked-out.
She says she feels “lost,” “manipulated,” and like the foundation of her relationship has been pulled out from under her. Reddit’s verdict? The foundation was gone years ago — she’s just finally looking down.
And until someone actually walks away, this slow-burning disaster isn’t over. It’s just quietly, painfully, still happening.